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How Do I Make New Friends or Fit In at University?

 


Starting university is exciting—but also a little scary. You’re entering a new world with unfamiliar faces, bigger classes, and a different way of life. Many first-year students wonder:
“How will I make friends?”
“Will I fit in?”
“What if I end up feeling alone?”

These are valid questions—and the good news is, most people around you are feeling the same way.

This post is here to remind you: you’re not alone, and there are plenty of ways to build meaningful friendships and find your place at university.


1. Be Open to New People and Experiences

One of the best things about university is that it's a fresh start. You're surrounded by people from different backgrounds, provinces, even countries. Don’t be afraid to talk to someone sitting next to you in class or in the cafeteria. A simple “Hi, how are you finding the course so far?” can open the door to a new friendship.

Tip: The first few weeks are when most people are looking to connect. Take advantage of this time to introduce yourself to classmates and roommates.


2. Join Clubs, Societies, or Student Groups

This is one of the easiest and most natural ways to meet people who share your interests. Whether you're into debating, chess, sports, community service, coding, or dancing—there’s likely a group on campus for you.

Why it works:
You’ll meet regularly, work on group projects, attend events, and have fun—friendships naturally form when you spend time doing something you enjoy.


3. Attend Orientation and Campus Events

Orientation week (often called “O-Week”) is designed to help first-year students feel welcome. There are games, campus tours, social events, and information sessions. Show up and participate—you'll meet other students who are just as nervous and excited as you are.

Even after O-Week, keep an eye out for events like open mic nights, sports matches, or talent shows. These are great spaces to mingle and relax.


4. Talk to Your Roommates and Classmates

These are the people you’ll see most often—use that to your advantage. Start small conversations about lectures, assignments, or even weekend plans. You don’t have to force anything—just be friendly and open.

Tip: Invite someone to grab lunch after class or study together in the library. It doesn’t have to be deep from day one—friendship grows with time.


5. Be Yourself—Seriously

Don’t try to change who you are just to fit in. University is a place where diversity is embraced, and people appreciate authenticity. If you're quiet, that’s okay. If you're outgoing, that’s great. There’s space for everyone.

The right people will connect with the real you—not a version of you that’s trying to impress others.


6. Be Patient and Kind to Yourself

Friendship takes time. Don’t panic if you don’t find your group in the first week—or even the first month. It’s normal to feel lonely at times when adjusting to a new environment. Be kind to yourself and remember: building real connections is a process, not a race.

If you’re struggling emotionally or feeling isolated, don’t hesitate to reach out to a campus counsellor or support service. You are never truly alone.


7. Use Social Media and WhatsApp Groups (Wisely)

Most courses or residences will have WhatsApp or Telegram groups. These can be helpful for staying in the loop, asking for help, or even arranging meetups.
Follow your university’s student pages on Instagram or Facebook for event updates and opportunities to connect.

Just remember to keep it respectful and positive online.


Final Thoughts

Making friends and fitting in at university isn’t about being the most popular or outgoing person in the room. It’s about showing up, being open, and staying true to who you are.

Some friendships will start fast, others will grow slowly—but they’ll come. Give yourself time and space to adjust. Every friendship starts with one small conversation. Be brave enough to start it.

You belong here.


Have you recently started university? Share your experience below. You never know who you might encourage.

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